The Christmas fog is on the verge of lifting and we are heading straight into the lure of 2019. It's really hard not to get pulled into the spirit of 'new year, new me' and promising to 'start the gym on Monday', 'stop eating carbs' and 'get up at 6am to go for a run every morning'. But one thing I've definitely come to realise having fallen into this trap more than once is that less, is most definitely more. What I mean is, rather than going whole hog, making huge declarations about your new plan to overhaul your lifestyle, break it down into a few key areas and focus on one thing at a time.
That might sound like it would be a bit TOO easy or achievable, but really when you think about it, you do actually want to ACHIEVE these things don't you?
So, to break this down for you, grab a pen and a piece of paper, and split the page into 4 columns or quarters. Label each section with:
Family & Relationships
Set a timer for 5 minutes for each section and really write EVERYTHING, no matter how small or out there it might sound, that you want to achieve in each area.
When you've done this for each section, look at each list and prioritise which is the most important one on each of the lists. So in total you have 4 goals. Don't throw the lists away because over time, you will come back to these lists and revise them as you need to.
Then, for each of the 4 goals you've identified, write a list of all the things you would need to do to make that goal happen. For example, in Health, your goal might be to lose 10lb. So to make that happen things you would need to do might include, eating home cooked meals during the week, starting a workout program and working out before you go to work or before the kids wake up, stop drinking wine in the week, drinking more water etc.
Where many people struggle is that they try to tackle everything here at once! But instead, strip it right back. Maybe you feel too tired to even think about exercise. So before even trying to include any of the above things into your day-to-day routine, the focus has got to be getting to bed early on a consistent basis, and learning how much sleep you need personally to feel energised the next morning. So perhaps the first thing to focus on, to be able to get up early to even consider being able to exercise first thing is to focus on your wind-down routine for going to bed the night before so you can be in bed for whatever time works for you to get the right amount of sleep. What would your perfect wind-down ritual look like - create it, write it down, make it as simple or as elaborate as you like!
Once you've got enough rest and you are consistent in the bedtime routine over a number of weeks (some people say it takes 30 days to form a habit...) then, start thinking about the next thing on the list to lose 10lb. Okay, so perhaps you feel energised enough in the mornings to wake and start working out - so the next step is to find out what exercise is going to work for you - is it the gym? Is it going to be a home workout program? Will it be running? How much time do you have to play with at that time of the day? The key thing would be to play around and try and see what works for you. Enjoy the process of learning about yourself, what you like and dislike, what keeps you motivated. When you find a form of exercise that works for you and you can slip into your daily life, you know you've hit the spot.
After this, you may then want to start looking at meal planning... And so on...
Do you see how much easier it feels just by taking it SLOWLY and focusing on one thing at a time?
Forget grand announcements and new years resolutions. 92% of you who make them will fail. I'm not being harsh, it's just a fact! Change really takes effect over a longer period of time, due to consistent daily small efforts that add up.
“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily.
The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.”
John C. Maxwell